Wishtress Jamie asks today:
What door do you wish to open?
My son and I are at a turning point in our relationship. Actually, it needs to turn but he is resisting. Maybe I am, too. It’s a scary, but necessary, thing when our kids grow up and move on. It can be even scarier when they don’t.
It is time for my son to look more to himself for validation and happiness. I can not be everything and do everything for him. If you’re familiar with Aspergers Syndrome or Autism, you might know some of the struggles associated with it…social issues, rigid thinking, perseveration, large or small motor development delays, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression and anxiety to name a few. They also can be highly intelligent, imaginative, funny, warm, sensitive and loving. Living with someone with AS is a mixed blessing; one I’d never return.
There can be years of struggle with a particular issue and then one day, the skies (or a door) will open and they will understand what you’ve been trying to teach or help them with and you feel rewarded and very, very thankful. I am my son’s “safe” person, the person he goes to with problems, frustrations, discoveries, questions, joys and accomplishments. He unleashes it all on me, good and bad. I am happy to be that person for him, and feel blessed that God would place me in this position because I know He knows what is right for us both. However, it is possible for this type of relationship to become unhealthy for both people involved and I think that is where we are at now. My son needs to find happiness and peace within himself and learn how to work through difficult emotions; I need to learn how to let go a little, stay true to my word, and find a way to usher him into a healthy adult life without losing myself completely in the process.
My wish is to open the door to a new kind of relationship with my son. I wish for understanding, confidence, healthy thoughts and maturity for my son, and the ability to see me in a new light. I wish for my husband and myself the wisdom, fortitude, conviction, love and understanding WE always need to be the ushers HE needs.
Lord, Specialists: Any new avenues or ideas that might prove useful would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you God, and Jamie, for giving me this moment to express my most fervent wish.
You may read other Wednesday wishes here.
Oh, what a beautiful wish. Strong. Loving. Brave. For all of you, very brave. I am honored to have read this one. I don’t have any advise here as I haven’t the knowledge or the ability.
But, to you who have been given this responsibility, know that Spirit would not have given it to you unless you were worthy and capable of managing it. Trust you instincts. Believe in the power of love to show the way and open the doors to future and a life well lived.
As Pamela wishes for herself and her son, so I lovingly and with intention wish for them also.
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I joyfully wish for her also.
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Hi Pamela,
Ushers for your son. Beautiful way to describe your role as parents! I wish for your door to open so that you can have a new relationship with your son, so he can see you in new ways and vice versa!
Giulietta the Muse
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I joyfully wish for her also. This is such a lovely wish. xx
As Pamela wishes for herself and her son, I so wish for her.
Wishing you the blessings of a new and evolving relationship
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Beautifully put ~ a person who asks for such a wish, to serve their child well, is already far on their way to making that wish come true.
As Pamela wisehs for herself, so I wish for her also. Such a serene and peaceful way of expressing something so surprisingly difficult. I wish ease and comfort as you usher your son into a new relationship with himself and you.
As a single mom to a 13 year old girl I can relate to the fear you feel.
You sound like an awesome mama!
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Pamela…I so deeply with this for you!! I have worked with Aspergers kiddos for a very long time and give you HUGE credit. They are wonderful but challenging too. May he walk on to his own adult life with grace to you. Hugs hon, Sarah
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Blessings and prayers for your son and you.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
As Pamela wishes for herself I so wish for her as well.
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
Thank you all for your kind, encouraging words. What a beautiful and supportive group you are! May all of your dreams and wishes come right through that open door!
wishing, wishing, wishing! Pamela, that which you wish for, i wish for you also.
As Pamela wishes for herself, so too do I wish for Pamela (((♥)))
As Pamela wishes for herself, so I wish for her also.
This is such a lovely wish. As Pamela wish for herself, so I wish for her also. Wishing you and your son all the best.